I could use some advice please!

Okay, I just finished day 46!  That is really exciting.  I've been exercising more, but I haven't lost the 5 lbs. I want to lose yet.  I'm back to eating much healthier for a number of reasons, really.  One is cuz of weight loss and wanting to be healthier; another has to do w/cutting back financially.  So, I'm cooking more (gasp!)

I spent last night at home alone.  I did get asked out for a date (gee, it's been so long, I almost didn't realize what he wanted from me!)  A guy I met at a group dance instruction; he's a great dancer, and he told me I had beautiful long legs, and a beautiful body and that I needed to relax (while dancing) because I looked beautiful :-} I had a quirky smile like that, I'm sure, when he told me that.  It caused me to freeze up for a moment, then I relaxed when I realized that he was paying me a compliment (took a moment to get through).  I've been self-conscious for so long now about how I look that it was initially difficult for me to swallow what he said.  Fortunately, a female relative told me something similar about myself not so long ago, and then with my daily affirmations :0), I think I'm really starting to believe them!

And then, the best part.  He asked me out for last night and I said no! I didn't want to say yes (not interested in him, just looove the way he dances); but in times past I would've been interested in anyone who was interested in me due to my lack of self-confidence.  Now, I work on having healthy boundaries and well defined specifics of the kind of man I'm interested in.  And because he doesn't seem to just want to be friends, then I don't want to be with him.  (Of course, if he comes to group dance, I'd love to dance with him again! If he's still talking to me, that is!)

There is another guy in this class; 8 years younger than me.  He is a sweetheart and I'd love to be friends with him. I'm really bad at this relationship thing in general, and esp. when it comes to men. Any advice on how just to be platonic friends with a guy?  I don't want to either send a wrong message that I like him, or scare him away.  Any advice from guys/girls about relationships in general?

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