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Mon, Mar 08 11:45 AM

Having no self esteem is ruining my life

 I have a wonderful, loving husband and a beautiful daughter who is amazing. I am not happy despite all of that. My husband, a good man, and I cannot seem to get along. I know it is the both of us but I can only change myself. We got into a huge fight which led to him not sleeping at home for a night and us not speaking for 2 days and almost calling it quits. The passion is gone out of the relationship and the communication has gone down the drain. I feel like he is always "right" and making snide comments and "jokes" that really offend and make me angry. Do I tell him that it offends me? YES! He doesn't seem to listen to anything I say or take me seriously. I do not want to nag anymore. I want to be independent. I want us to be happy, passionate and love each other. I know I am relying on him to make me happy when it should be me making myself happy. I just need to learn the tools to make that happen. I am sick and tired of destroying every relationship I make with a huge fight or falling out. I am still not talking to half of my husbands family over a huge incident that I caused and it eats away at me everyday. I want to be happy. I want to build happy, healthy relationships without gossip. I want to be happy and feel fullfilled in my marriage and I want to be the best mom I can be. 

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I hear you.

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I can relate to your story. My lack of self-esteem has resulted in poor choices in the past, but Tools to Life has really helped me.  Good luck on your journey. Stick with Tools as you will really see the benefits in all areas of your life.

you're on your way

I'm new at all of this, but I think that realizing that you can only change you is a large part of the solution as is realizing that it should be you that you depend on to make you happy. Seems to me you're already taking steps  to getting where you want to be. KUDOS TO YOU! 

 

I'm only in my first week of TOOLS and have already seen significant changes in my happiness and that has improved my relationship with my husband and my kids... in only a few days! So take heart...every day brings you a little closer to achieving your dream. 

positive energy attracts positive energy right?

maybe stop focusing on making the marriage into something u invision?or making him into something u want but he is not? sounds like ur on the right track by working on urself..stay positive,make urself a happy person that people wanna be around,mostly ur kid ya know.. who knows, he might notice all the positive changes in u and want that for himself and follow your lead, maybe not..u gotta take care of urself first girl,then everything else will fall into place..put in ur best to being a good mom,wife,person,to the point of where u know youve done what u can, and then what happens after that,happens...youll feel good about it either way cause u know u gave it ur best...but dont beat yourself up anymore if its not going the way u invision it..right? ur doing awesome ,keep up the good work!!!!