CardiganJim: 2011-01-05

says: I believe that people are basically good. I realize that emotional hurt is really MY decision that SOMEONE ELSE's decision or action did NOT agree with my judgement. Often I have to forgive myself for creating that judgement. ...I have a wonderful wall, full of pictures of bridges. Bridges connect two points of view, mine and someone else's. It's great to discuss the engineering of these bridges; but eventually I tell myself "Get over it."

puravida643: 2009-02-21

says: Don't forget that emotions are a great thing and to feel sad, happy, angry and all that is not bad at all. Feel it all just don't let it consume you. Take every lesson that you can from what happened to you and try to learn from it. Forgive, because more then likely the person who did this to you was not aware of the full affects of his or her actions. And believe that you are strong enough to make it through this and you are beautiful and a good person and this event, while shook you up a little, has not changed that. And remember time cures all! Be well!

puravida643: 2009-02-21

says:

Sending you lots of love

Shammy: 2009-02-20

says:

First reaction.... is to impulsively act on the fact that someone hurt you....by getting back at them, its only human nature. Instead think about why it hurt you, and what you can do to make your self feel better. Don't consider how they feel. Consider how you feel. 

That feeling will take a bit to subside, yes. But there is so much to life then dwelling on the little things.

You can do something like paint your toe nails, listen to your favortie music.. or just write down everything your feeling at that exact moment..... just free write dont let you pen off the paper till you have all that you need to say out.. walk away, and come back and read it later, and see how it makes you feel.  I love writting.. sometimes i come back to it.. and I'm like wow.... I don't feel like that now that Ive calmed down.. and it kinda takes the edge off and makes you sit back and realize it might be easier to get over it then you thought. 

Paulisasuccess: 2009-02-20

says: I agree with all that ...and to add my 2 cents worth, sometimes the pain you feel can be poured into some creative outlet - poetry, acting, painting...whatever that can get you some work you can be proud and then you feel better about yourself and what this person feels or doesn't feel won't matter so much.

Luda: 2009-02-20

says: I think Andi said it perfectly. You need to be at peace with things that have had a negative affect on you emotionally, otherwise you never really get over it. It will make you stronger as well. There is always a lesson to be learned.

Andi.Evil: 2009-02-20

says: Who says you have to "get over it"? and what does that mean to you? To me, "get over it" means to forget about it. If you forget about it, you can never learn a lesson from it. If you forget about it, every time you DO remember it seems to bring the pain back as if it just happened. I think instead of "getting over it" you should ask yourself what the lesson learned could be, then  forgive (not forget) what has happened, and incorporate the lesson in your life. It may sound impossible... but it is doable. *hugs* Andi