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terrible day by jc7
Where to begin? I think I just need to let out some of todays sorrows.
Recieved an email from my wife who I have been offering marriage counselling to for the last 7 months of barely communicating being here in different countries as she is british.
It looks as if accepting help is not an option to her, I think it sucks, Cuz I really do love her.
However she took a lot when we moved to Canada as I was not ready to move back. And she did take a lot because of my social anxiety. It was very hard.
But we got over that and I went back to England and she was staying with a Bible College she attended, and they would not let me stay with her well we looked for a house, So I was rather angry with them. Another arguement and i was out of the UK again.
Don't know what to do, or how to deal with anything at the moment.
I wanna try counselling so badly, but do not want to force her to, because that defeats the purpose.
I don't even really believe in divorce, if counselling is never attempted. I just feel everyone just quits in their marriage these days as it just seems to be becoming more socialably acceptable.
I don't know, it all seems real sh*tty, Really down, but TOOLS has really helped over the first 5 days and I really just wanna make sure I stay on here,
Especially with this going on now, She really means the world to me, but I guess the feeling is not mutual.
Wow, this really suck, guess I will try to find the opportunity in all this mess.
thats it for now, just needed to type,
comments
freedom
One day at a time. I can't help but hope that the young lady reaches out to a counselor and helps to get things right between you. As a wife and grandma, I can tell you my husband has to work very hard to understand me. Listening is so important. When I was very young, 19, I had a very close relationship. I remember how hurt I was when he said he wasn't interested anymore. (then he wanted me back, and it went back and forth... it hurt.) I finally put my foot down and told myself I deserved faithfulness. and if he wasn't happy with me, I wanted him to be free... I just wanted him to be happy too. That is what helped me, I hurt, but I kept consistent and cared that he was happy which given the track record met, not seeing me anymore. Years later, he came to my mother's funeral and apologized for the agony of going back and forth. It took him 24 years to realize that going back and forth in relationships is a horrible stressful thing. I hate that drama it rips all reason from the frame. Life is for living and forgiving not expecting perfection... that is all I know... so hang in there. It might hurt for awhile, but if she isn't even willing to go to counseling, I would love her enough to set her free.