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Birth Date: Thu, Apr 28 1983

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Schools: Casper College

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Right now i just want to find inner happiness. I have always been a negative person and i have let it run my life. I dont want to be like that any more and i am finally ready to start being happy with life and with myself!

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Mon, Jan 25 10:43 AM

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My ex is still working his ass off to get me back. He comes over and cries to me about how he cant move on and im the only woman for him and he cant live without me. How am i suposed to deal with this!!!!!! We had a good 4 years together but a lot of it wasnt good especially towards the end. I feel that we screwed up so bad there is no way to fix it and get trust back. Geeze i never really fully trusted him from the begining. I just hate that he is hurting so bad right now and i just dont know what to do!!!!

My new guy is everything ive been looking for and i even tell my ex this but he swears that he is not ever gona give up.

I tried ignoring his calls and txts but then he just comes over. I love him and hate that he is hurting so much but i dont know what to do to fix everything!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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Oh BOY

I had an ex girl that would call and text even a year after we were over.  I had to change my number, really sucked it was a great number.  As far as "fixing everything" there is nothing you can do to fix him, that is his job.  Don't want to sound like an ass but you and your life have to be your number one.  Any time a realtionship is over there is going to be pain, but as you said "I never really fully trusted him" trust is a major part of the foundation of a healthy relationship.  Maybe your inner voice was telling you something.  If you really feel that your new guy is much better for you I say go for it, but I would also say take it slow and make sure that you are really over the ex before fully commiting to a new relationship.  Best wishes.  Oh just a side bar, if you read the past section on my profile don't worry about the relationship stuff.  All my friends say I give great advise I just can't give it to myself.Smile 

guess what?

It's great to be sympathetic for your ex, and it's hard to see people you care about hurting... BUT, you can't do anything to change his situation. You certainly can't make him stop wanting to be with you. The only thing you can do is what's best for you-- so tell him that you've moved on and that you hope he can too, then PEACE OUT!

 

It's tough though, right? 

I'm sorry...

that this is so difficult for you. I agree with the advice above though. You really have to do what is best for you. You may need to make it very clear that if he interferes with your new relationship or life too much that you may have to be more extreme with cutting him off. Not that I'm suggesting a restraining order or anything at this point, but if this is what you really want... to move on and have a great life with your new man, you will have to accept the fact that he's going to be hurt and may act unreasonably. He will  heal too eventually even if he has a more difficult time than you. Time does lessen the pain, so knowing this applies to him as well may make it easier on you to have to hurt him now. You have already moved on and he needs to have this made very clear to him. You deserve peace in your new life and relationship!