Welcome! I actually started my own 'life change' crusade a few years ago, after a few dire realizations regarding the extent to which I had let my life choices be dictated by others, primarily my mother. She and her tactics were only worsening with age, and the effects on my mentality and identity finally caused me to wake up and take action. Dropping out of the family drama cycle and changing my role from victim to empowered, threatened everyone else's roles and upset the family dynamics. Aside from my daughters, I was basically extricated from the family for not playing the game. The 6 months that followed were rocky to say the least, and being self-employed, my business suffered tremendously. But last Fall I DECIDED to pick myself up and put things back together - in a new way.

I have spent 8 months focusing on getting my business back on track. I started my own Checklist and things turned around so quickly it was almost too much to handle. In the last 4 months I've been booked solid and my income is double the previous years. Focus, positive self-talk, a Checklist and no excuses.

Then I found Tools! And I'm so thankful - because Tools is helping me to do the same for the rest of my life - to reach out - and start to really enjoy it. I'm learning how to give myself space, create boundaries, disengage myself from the old victim/rescuer/persecutor cycle, give others space, and most importantly - learn to trust. Thankfully I have two amazing, intelligent, patient and very loving adult daughters who have gently supported me (and I, them) the whole way. I am truly thankful. 

Tools has already helped me so much - I'm learning how to get involved with community, trust, accept support and provide support. Thanks to Coach Steele, and to all of you.