Member Since: 02/28/09
Last Login: 03/11/10
Program Progress: Day 78
Though it is hard, you must keep focusing forward... and onyourself moving forward.
Wont he be coming back? What on earth could keep him away? Can you not join him?
Hi there joyeverlasting,
I really like your name by the way. First I need to introduce myself. I am a busy pastor and artist, so I tend to pop in and out of TOOLS. I'm on my 19th day, and I'm delighted to be back here communicating and posting.
I am a single lady living on my own too, and I was just thinking about that before I read your post. I sort of realised I created my being alone because I really like being a hermit at the moment, however having a loving partner can be kinda nice too. It's tough when someone you love is away, especially when there are other problems around like household bills that one is concerned about. Obviously I don't know the whole of your story, but I would like you to know that you are not alone and you don't have to feel lonely, as you do have friends here who care about you, and you can lean on your friends here a bit more if you need to. What sort of hobbies do you enjoy?
Our suffering, our loneliness, our pangs for companionship come about especially when we think there is no one around to take care of us; no one around to pay attention to us, no one around to listen. The fact is we are alone with ourselves. The only situation we can control is our own. We have to take care of ourselves. Yet, we think it's up to someone else to come home and take care of things, to control things for us.
There is more strength and more love when we think about changing our situation in a positive way. If you are down and your husband is truly your soul mate, please give him a call and let him know you're having a hard time with the bills and see if he has any advice to ease your situation. "Dealing with everything" can change to "dealing with some things." Perhaps you feel overwhelmed and need to take some small steps as Coach advises.
Take care. And, yes, you did deserve a wonderful man like him. And, yes, he does deserve you. May spring flowers brighten your table and your day.
Thanks for sharing. I like that you are honest about what is going on. That will serve you. You have faith and friends. And you also have tools. Very powerful combinations!