toolstolife.com - en-us http://toolstolife.com// toolstolife.com - Keep working it http://toolstolife.com/users/justdance1/blog/viewpost/22471/ For those of you that are still using the tools program in this new year I congratulate you.  Some will have already had second thoughts and decided that it is too much work or takes too much time.  Taking the time to improve the quality of your life is never a waste of time.

 

I think it is great if you are taking your time "so what" if you are not completing a block every day.  Some blocks will take more than one day "and should", because they will require you to think and evaluate your answers. Take each block and work your way through it.  Taking more than one day should never be construed as failure.

Celebrate each success and be proud of yourselves that you are making changes big or little in your lives.

I’ll be happy to be of help.

Enjoy the day


read more...]]> 2010-01-08 08:49:14 GMT http://toolstolife.com/users/justdance1/blog/viewpost/22471/ Thinking back and moving forward http://toolstolife.com/users/justdance1/blog/viewpost/22081/         Someone recently asked my what my goals were? I immediate thought back to my goals in the tools program.  So I open my profile page and took a fast look at what I had written when I first filled out my profile.  I was surprised to see that my goals had changed.  When had that happened?

        To my surprise some of my goals had been accomplished.  I am currently on the right path with many of my stated goals, and  some of my goals had just changed, and some of them were out of date.

        When in the world had this happened?  When did my life change and take on new directions?  I must have blinked and life just sped up and passed me by.  I hadn't even felt the breeze.

       It didn’t take much soul searching to find the answer to the question.  I hadn’t fallen into a “time machine” or even a “time warp”.  I had just been following and using my tools, one day at a time.

        I had been doing the right stuff. When I got up in the morning I ate that apple or banana and started creating healthy habits. I had been keeping my lists and journals. I had been "boosted and poked" back on track with the help of my friends on tools, and friends from my personal life and more.

        I had discovered that I didn’t have to be perfect and I learned to forgive myself when I slipped on my way forward.  That helped me more than I would have believed possible.  Forgiving ourselves and others is a great way to come to terms with our lives and goals and put the rest behind us. 

        We can only exist in this moment.  What has happened to us in the past should not be an anchor in our lives now.  I have stopped letting my past become my personal anchor.

        I looked around myself more often, and saw others that were in far worse situations than myself.  I realized just how lucky I am.

        In answer to the person that asked me what my goals are, the answer has become obvious.  I will continue building on the skills I have learned to use.  I realized I already had a nice collection of my own personal tools and this program helped me organize the tool box and put my skills with them to use. I am already a coach and now my goal is to become a life coach as well.

read more...]]> 2009-12-28 14:42:29 GMT http://toolstolife.com/users/justdance1/blog/viewpost/22081/ Ongoing Process http://toolstolife.com/users/justdance1/blog/viewpost/18752/ I am grateful I found this website.

 

When I found this site my life was not in despair, I had no addictions. My relationships were not in ruins or my faith in question. My health was alright for my age. 

 

Basically I guess you could say I had more than most.

 

So why am I here?

 

Because I was not focused I had reached a point in my life where I was willing to settle. To just accept what ever was coming my way with no real passion.

 

Now I am going forward again in my life.  Making some unpleasant choices and not willing to settle for just a vanilla existence.

 

We can get complacent and boring to be with, if we are not careful, taking no chances and going nowhere.  

 

Since coming here I have improved my business  I have renewed some dreams that I had forgotten.  I gotten closer to my family.  Been more of the person I should be.

 

I work with a trainer and feel better about myself.  I also take better care of the inner me.  

 

I don't get to everything every single day that want to but, I'm closer to getting them done than I had been in a long time.

 

I am not done this is an ongoing process. I am not always going to make the best choices the most solid decisions. I will have failures.That is alright, it means I am doing something with my life. I am moving forward.

 

 

I have the Tools

 

Thanks Wordbird

 

 

 

 


read more...]]> 2009-06-16 05:55:42 GMT http://toolstolife.com/users/justdance1/blog/viewpost/18752/ Thank you http://toolstolife.com/users/justdance1/blog/viewpost/16556/
Christmas Eve 2008.

I think it is time to share a little of what has been going on.

During this last year I have been blessed with the support of many wonderful people.  Also in the last week or so several of you have boosted me or sent me notes of encouragement.  Some of you have been there for me from the beginning. Some have been discovered along the way.  Either way “Thank You” for being here for me.

    To all appearances I have been falling behind in my “Tools Program” and to be sure, you would be correct.  In a way I have to blame the Tools Program itself.  When you begin using Tools you should ready to have change in your life.  You should be ready to be busy.

    If you have joined this program and are not willing to change.  You might just have to delete your profile and look elsewhere. You must expect and look forward to change.  Not all change is happy or easy, it is just different, and that can be frightening.

      This has been a very challenging year for me, in part because I elected to start this program.

    I am a dancer and I am also the owner of my own Dance Studio.  Because of this program I have had to look at myself in a different way. It may sound odd, but I am my business. I have made changes that affected my studio and my relationships with my students and others that enter into this orbit.  My business has grown even in a “down time.”

    Thanks to this program I have less junk around the house, I have started to write, I get more done, my schedule is more organized.  I get things done I would have put off before.  I have been a terrible procrastinator in my life.

    My personal life has had some changes, I am less willing to be taken advantage of.  Eventually you have to decide what is good for you.  Then do something about it.  Some changes are painful but have to be made if you are to be your own person.  This one is the hardest because I hate hurting someones feelings.

    I have so very much more to do, but I am closer than before to being the person I was meant to be.  I cannot thank you all enough for your support.

    Now I have one more thing.  Please don’t give up on me these last days of 2008.  I want to finish this program.  I only have just a handful of days left to finish this. I could use a little push.  The notes and boosts of the last few days have been the catalyst that got me going again.

I need you guys.  Thanks Ron


read more...]]> 2008-12-24 19:32:58 GMT http://toolstolife.com/users/justdance1/blog/viewpost/16556/ Slow and not always so easy http://toolstolife.com/users/justdance1/blog/viewpost/13073/     First I would like to thanks some of you for giving me a boost when I did not expect it.

 

    I was very impressed that someone had taken the time. 

 

    I had not blogged in a while because I have been very busy just trying to make good choices and get things done in my life.  Making tools work.

 

    I realize doing the right thing takes time and energy. 

 

    I think "not" following through and procrastinating, and letting things go, might seem like less work, but it's harder on your heart and soul.

 

    So I have been doing the tools a little slower and really thinking my home work though.

 

    I have had many things going on in my life and I think we might be close to getting back on track.

 

    Sorry for meandering,  here is the lesson for those of you starting tools.

 

It will sometimes be hard

You have to do the work

This is a contentious process it will take time and energy

There will be people here that will support you

You can take time to take care of your life but for this program to work you have to come back to it

 

Good luck 

 


read more...]]> 2008-06-23 20:17:18 GMT http://toolstolife.com/users/justdance1/blog/viewpost/13073/ Lost http://toolstolife.com/users/justdance1/blog/viewpost/11992/ I have't beento the blog in a while.  I've been so busy trying to do the tools.  I'm sure getting things done but I've lost something as well.  

 

Don't get me wrong tools has helped me get things done.  It has smoothed out some bumps in the road.  But...... 

 

I'm coming to realization that there need to be changes in my current relationship.

 

How can you share personal stuff in the blogs?  There are answers I need but I have no one to bounce the questions off of? 

 

How do you take all the things good and bad in a relationship and tally them up with pluses and minuses and there you have.... what 

 

How do you judge whats more important?  Comfort, security, intimacy,  financial security, common goals and interests,  future together?

 

Have you ever been with someone and felt like they are there just because it's easier to be with you than someone else? 

 

yes tonight I'm lost and little confused and looking for answers. 


read more...]]> 2008-05-10 22:02:50 GMT http://toolstolife.com/users/justdance1/blog/viewpost/11992/ I've gotten a lot done http://toolstolife.com/users/justdance1/blog/viewpost/11543/ I haven't added much to the blog lately as it has been a very busy last two weeks.  I went to support my sister in Denver with my Dad.  I came back just in time to work and dance with my students in a showcase (7 routines).  I had so much to catchup with in my business and personal life.  I think I'm tired now.

 

I stayed with tools and didn't miss a dayLaughing.

 

Tools in its own way helped me get through it.

 

Reading other blogs helped as well.  I thought I had something to say but now that I'm here I'm out of words.

 

Good night 

 

 


read more...]]> 2008-04-23 21:37:51 GMT http://toolstolife.com/users/justdance1/blog/viewpost/11543/ Letters http://toolstolife.com/users/justdance1/blog/viewpost/11240/ I got my first letter of to my father today.  Since I started tools i have been writing more in general and it is becoming easier to do.  I have never been a great letter writer.  Usually something has to happen to get the letter writing gene working.  Hope you all have a great day.

 

I didn't miss one day of tools while I was in Denver. Laughing


read more...]]> 2008-04-14 08:14:29 GMT http://toolstolife.com/users/justdance1/blog/viewpost/11240/ Tomorrow http://toolstolife.com/users/justdance1/blog/viewpost/11185/ Tomorrow i go home.  I have spent time here everyday,  neither my father or I talk much,  it just our nature.  We get a smile once in a while over some little thing.  

 

I know from watching the nurses and aid and therapist that they really do try very hard and i applaud them.

 

My sister will be coming over every couple of days and that is the extent of family here.  I will encourage him to socialize.  I have asked the nurses and aids get him out.  

 

He will be lonely and it make me sad.  I think my letter writing skills with a plain old pen and paper are going to get worked out.

 

He says his eyes are fine and he can read fine,  i asked him how his writing skills were and he says to quote, "not worth a *@#". Surprised

 

Calls are fine but the written letter has a value beyond our cell phone world.

 

I'll be logging back in tomorrow, from home.

 

 


read more...]]> 2008-04-12 14:11:08 GMT http://toolstolife.com/users/justdance1/blog/viewpost/11185/ Still logging in http://toolstolife.com/users/justdance1/blog/viewpost/11158/ Well I found a way to "log in to tools" and here I am. I appreciate words of encouragement on my last blog.

 

I'm sitting here watching my father sleep.  We were the children one day and the next we are parenting our parents.

 

He wants to go home but I don't think that will happen as he has falling and other safety issues.  How hard it must be to realize you are going to have to be taken care instead of being able to live on your own.

 

My father wasn't a great father but but my heart goes out to him today.

 

Enjoy each day you have, that you can enjoy your good health and your independence.  Those days are so precious.

 

thanks for listening 

 

 


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