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Kayla
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Birth Date: Sun, Nov 29 1959

Place of residence:
Stamford CT, United States (map)

I am: Married

Schools: Two Masters Degrees

Jobs: Administration


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Member Since: 05/21/07
Last Login: 02/01/12
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Kayla's Life List:
Love my life
Be of service in my life
Be kind, gentle, compassionate, loving and generous to myself, my family and my friends
Live a healthy life
Live a moral and ethical life
Enjoy every day
Accept and work with life on its terms
Meet life's challenges with grace and humor
Let go of fears, worries, resentments, envy, negativity and excuses
Embrace confidence, joy, hope and faith
Surround myself with people I respect and love
Celebrate life with music and dance
Read daily for spiritual, intellectual and emotional benefits
Travel the world and the seven seas
Go on a major bike trip
Enjoy the cultural abundance of my city
Embrace nature
Enjoy the abundance of cooking, sharing and eating sumptuous, lovely, tasty, spicy food
Celebrate life with friends
Be positive
Be responsible
Be expansive
Wear comfortable, interesting clothing and jewelry
Be comfortable and comforting
Seek to understand rather than to be understood
Be quiet and peaceful within myself
Contribute to conversations without dominating
Be totally open to learning from others and from experience
Be willing to take fearless risks
Go hang gliding.
Write and be published
Have tremendous flexibility in my work
Be free from economic insecurity
Declutter home.
Make my home a beautiful haven.
Balance city and country life.
Travel to Canada, Greece, Israel, Finland, Russia, Ireland, Wales, China, Germany, Holland, Denmark again.
Travel to Thailand, Japan, New Zealand, Australia, Guinea, Mali, Mozambique, Turkey, Croatia, Macedonia, Prague, Italy, Ecuador, Costa Rica, Brazil,
Travel cross-country, along country roads.
Play the saxophone.
Learn a new language - Arabic? Bangla?
Take my son to India.
Eat delicious, healthy food.
Get into the best physical condition possible.
Own a country home with a barn where we can hold dances.
Own a country home where fruit trees and berry bushes grow.

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  Kayla

Wed, Jun 10 07:53 AM

Better

 

Coach Steele reminds us to read regularly.  Really great advice.  It can really transport us out of our limited thinking into new ways of understanding and appreciating the world and our potential contribution to it.

 

I just finished an amazing book.  Better , A Surgeon's Notes on Performance by Atul Gawande.  Wow.  So inspiring.  And fascinating. So many life lessons on diligence, ethical dilemmas/"doing right," and ingenuity.  Fabulous writing about fascinating failure and success in medicine such as battlefield surgery, the fight to eradicate polio, ethical dilemmas in meting out the death penalty, and third world public hospitals.  I found myself considering how his findings had implications for my field of education, which I consider to be nearly as life and death a field as medicine, and parenting... Fail a child and fail ourselves and our nation.

 

Gawande's no-nonsense advice to us all is to aim to be a 'positive deviant.' He suggests we ask 'unscripted questions,' or that we do what we can to learn about others, to make connections to other people.  He exhorts us to never complain, because it's too easy and not of any use.  He suggests we count how often we succeed and how often we fail, in order to come to new understandings.  He tells us to write something, anything, and share it with someone else.  And finally, he tells us to change, to try new things, to become and early adopter.  "Be willing to recognize the inadequacies in what you do and to seek out solutions."

 

Sound familiar? Those who are most successful are most honestly reflective and willing to make changes in their lives without shame for past mistakes.  Tools teaches us these life lessons, too.  I think we should all read Better or other inspirational books and article, such as those sent out by Tools,  for reinforcement.  Good leads to better.

 

Much love to my fellow seekers,

Kayla

 

 

 

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Summer Read

Yes! So many good books to read out there.  I'll put this one on my list.  I like the sound of "positive deviant"!

Any Ideas?

Yes, I'll look that book up. However, can you tell me...what did Gawande say to do about the "shame" of what we perceive as our lack of progress, failing effort and mistakes.  I'm having a tad of trouble with that tonight and could use a new perspective.  Thanks.