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  kmcm

Thu, Mar 18 04:02 PM

Calling on TTLers! Plez Help-- solutions needed!

 

Needed some QUICK advise... what better place than to reachout to fellow toolers who are dependable, reasonable and always helpful? !!!

 

My daughter, a new TTLer is struggling with an opportunity...  Seems her boss is pretty difficult.  Daughter works ALOT and she works HARD.  In fact, she created this job by being considerate and offering to help and now she is downtrodden by all of the negativity!

 

This boss complains all of the time.  My daughter is aware of this as she has been addressing TTL "No Complaints".  No matter how hard daughter works, there is a negative response. 

 

In fact, as I sit here writing this blog, daughter is sending an important email out to boss. 

She has sent it 4 times this evening so far and trying a 5th time.  Boss doesnt understand that this information was sent over a week ago.   The boss is extremely negative and attacks frequently. 

 

My advise to find another job is not a viable solution at this point from a financial standpoint.  So the need for new ideas is imperative.

 

It seems logical to try to come up with some solutions to learn to manage this conflict and try to make an opportunity of it.  I've not had such conflicts with my boss.  I've no real good advise for her yet.  I am the person to whom daughter vents.  This situation is not a good one, viewing from the outside. 

 

I wish she could quit but in doing so will lose many opportunites to advance in her field... a field that she loves!!! 

 

I know that the conflict cannot be handled in just one night however with your help, perhaps we can come up with some ideas to help her start to turn it into a solution or to see it as opportunity..... Will you help?

 

My goal is to help find/supply suggestions that will help start to turn things around.

 

  • Things that can be done immediately to help diffuse a conflict cycle with a boss?
  • Ways others have dealt with a negative boss?
  • how to explain to your boss that you are giving it your best and the expectations are unrealistic?
  • Long-term solution suggestions for improving work tension?

Any ideas welcome...

We look forward to your ideas!

Thank you so much for being here!

   

Sincerely,

KMCM

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Maximisses Maximisses:

I feel for your daughter

Hi Cindy.

 

Thanks for your email and kind comments. 


First of all I feel for your daughter.  It sounds to me that she is trying very hard to do her job well.  It must be very frustrating and upsetting. 


I have found some tips on the internet that can express in words better than I.

 

Here are some links.

 

http://conflict911.com/guestconflict/difficultboss.htm

http://www.badbossology.com/

 

 

Let us all know how your daughter goes.  Take care.

 

empowering_myself empowering_myself:

I hear you !!

sounds like you both are going through some very tough times...don't have any answers right now. But stopping by to give you my support and positive vibes to help you find the answers that you need. 

Sending you lots of love Sending you lots of love, hang in there...we are all here to listen and wish you all the best

kmcm kmcm:

Thanks!

Great suggestions and support, I do so appreciate them both.  Hoping to get a few more responses but we are trying to understand the underlying issue with the boss to better be able to handle the negativity easier for starters.

 

We are working with a ... for lack of a better word... family coach.  I have suggested that daughter begin to dissect the work situation with him and start addressing this opportunity to make things different in the workplace.

 

Hoping that this will be the corner daughter needs to turn in order to get this whole situation to turn.

 

Thanks a bunch

SGALBR2 SGALBR2:

Another option

It sounds like you and your daughter are trying every avenue possible.  I think everyone who is not an owner operator of a business can appreciate working in a challanging enviroment.  I work in a challenging enviroment where people often times let their massive egos get in the way.  There was a book that a few of us in our office found and were going to give to our boss...nobody had the guts to do it in the end.  Not sure if it will help but see if you can find it on Amazon or something like that...the name of the book is:  Tame your Terrible office Tyrant. 

 

Best of luck to you as you work through this.