Ok i have a better way to explain this, this time! My fear is of being wrongly judged by others.
EG. I am currently reading Dr.Phils book Love smart, how to find the one you want. I want to read it as much as possible. Ok so im at school and there are a group of girls sitting over from me. The thoughts that will come to mind are...I dont want them to see what im reading why is that? Y am I ashamed for them to see me reading a book on love?
Eg.2 When i am sitting in a place like the library and people come round and sit near me i cant focus on reading i keep thinking to myself are they looking at me, if they are then why. I just dont feel at harmony inside i feel tense and concious of whats going on around me why?
Eg.3 I cant listen to my swing music around people that dont know me well because i think that they will be thinking what the hell is she listening to, shes weird
Eg.4- I am currently on a site that matches you up with someone who is compatible with you based on 29 dimentions and lets say for example i meet someone off it after months of gettin to know each other and months later dated and people said how did you meet. I would be ashamed to say the net because people associate that with loser, freak, desperate maybe.
I assumb people are thinking what i think the general population thinks .
I think my main fear is once i have been judged, that will be what people see me as, they will take the association of the music with loser away and just keep the loser association
I do like myself so i dont think that is the problem, i think i want everyone who even looks at me to like me is that my problem?
Give me a shout out please! I know ill find the answer soon but maybe you will fasten up the process!
cheers