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Mon, Mar 15 08:57 AM

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Yesterday felt like a slight improvement. I should really do this blogging daily as my life is so full, that it is hard to remember what actually happened that day.

The weekend was fairly well. I just sort of got down in a rut, that I brought up divorce. Now, I really don't want to get a divorce. But sometimes I think it is the best option becaue I can be such a miserable person. I do this time and time again to my best friend, my husband!

I have a terriable time being a "name caller". Pretty much everything I say is followed by "you _____". Sometimes it's negative, while other times is a term of endearment. Well my Husband asked me if he has to live the rest of his life with me, being called names. I told him he does, and if he doesn't like it, that he knows what to do. After that whole situation, I really thought about what he said, and No, I don't want this to be our life. I want us to be happy and get over this forever neverending hill.

It will get better won't it. Most good things that happen get worse before it gets better. Well, if not, that is my experience with it.

I can make this "name calling" not be an issue anymore. It's not like I am a robot and someone else is controlling what I say. I often have told my Husband to think about what he says before he says it. I need to do that myself. I know I can do it. It's just going to take practice and little bit more patience on my end of things.

I am going to make today a great day! Cool

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earthfireg earthfireg:

A step in the right direction

Good for you in realizing this before it does end the marriage.  If you truelly love him then that is not to much to ask that you stop calling him names.  Think of being in his shoes and how you would feel.

Stop the behaviour now before it is to late.

I am a big believer in being nice to others and that will be returned back to us.

So good job and keep it up, before long you will change the behaviour.

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Well, all the best!

I admire you because it does take courage to see oneself and want to change. I believe you can do it, and take control of this, which is simply a bad habit.

 

I realise I do that a bit with my children, my..., or using nicknames, I did not think before it was a lack of respect but a sign of love, but maybe you are right it may be annoying.