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- - Goal setting
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I solved by going back to the exercise section of the toolbox and making journal forms of the questions for each day I also did that for the check list. he is a checklist sample:
Daily checklist journal form
Improvement goal: I pick one thing I can do today to improve my life and my day. Today
I will:
Write down any negative things you thought or said to yourself in the last 24 hours.
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complete negative thought form
Smile at least six times a day
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What is one thing you could do for yourself today if you liked yourself more?
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Daily Water
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How will you spend ten minutes making your life better today
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Make a list of excuses used in the last 24 hours
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Complete excuses form sample
Negative self thought
1. Write three negative things you tell yourself that are not true.
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2. Now rewrite these phrases as follows:I am not _______________________________________________________________________________
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I am not _______________________________________________________________________________3. Write three negative things you tell yourself that are true, but you can change them.
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4. Now rewrite these phrases as follows:The following may be true,_______________________________________ , but I can and I will change this!
The following may be true,_______________________________________ , but I can and I will change this!
The following may be true,_______________________________________ , but I can and I will change this!
well you get the idea every morning I after I do the checklist I do the check list journal pages, mostly because I am ocd/add and it helps me not to forget missed opportunities to clear things up in my head. after doing each excuse/negative thought/complaint I repeat 'my attitude is my decision.
hope this idea helps
You're attitude is changing!
Believe it or not! Consider that before starting this course...you may have kept complaining and making excuses and missing opportunities and letting fear rule?
Today, you see and have so bravely and honestly expressed your thinking errors and are substituting positive thoughts!
What a fantastic accomplishment in such a short time Rou!! Way to go!!
You see complaining and excuses as challenges! Wonderful! That means you accept that you can change! And you are already changing!! I'm sooooo impressed!!
Honestly!!
You can see where your opportunities are!!
You said so!! That's great!! We have to see those opportunities before we can make use of them! Soon you'll be doing that too! Go for it Rou!!
And you see how this is "tons better" than prior to doing Tools! Which is what will inspire you to continue the program! Wonderful!! You're not a quitter Rou!!
There's more.....wait......
You're attitude is changing continued...
Hahaha! I'm on a roll here....
You said you will make it and you believe that!!
Wonderful stuff!! It's true Rou!! Keep going!!
You will adjust and debrief yourself? That's an absolutely great attitude adjustment! Do you see how great that is? So much better than wallowing eh? Good for you Rou!!
You will learn from your "slips" and "do better the next time"? It's all any of us can do!! It's the most positive result of error. And we all make errors because none of us are perfect!
The truly wonderful thing about that statment is how human you are allowing yourself to be!! And how great it is that you are taking something negative (a slip) and turning it into a positive opportunity (the chance to learn and do better)!! I'm so proud of you Rou!!
And best of all......you are allowing yourself the time you need to change!! That is so real and so necessary!! So lovely to see you say it!!
Reality is ....these things do take time and beating yourself up for slips won't help. What an amazing attitude adjustment you have made......to allow yourself the time necessary to implement the changes you want!! You will do it Rou!! You will!
Believe it!
Trixy