How to remember, but not be in pain. that is the question. I do believe that coach has answered this question in the toilet section. Don't worry if you haven't gotten there you will. Then it will make sense. I need to continually flush it down the toilet UNTIL it is just a memory and a scar. If you think about it, when you get injured to the point of a scar forming afterwards, it hurts like the dickens when it occurs, but the scar doesn't hurt, it simply a reminder that the body went through a traumatic event and needed some help recovering. So, to scars I say thank you. They are my battle wounds that I made it and did not die in the process, even if I felt like it at the time.