definitelythistime67:

Stay strong...

and focus on the positive. You are here, you are caring about yourself enough to try to heal, you are honoring your wife by caring enough about her and your marriage to change your life. I'm so proud of you and you should be proud of yourself. I loved what you said about your brain kissing your butt. That made me laugh but its so true. I'll remember that and I might just have to tell my brain the same thing some times :)

Yesterday when I made a similar comment to yours about it all crashing down, my TTL friend Shane13 said this...

"Here's the question, what happens if the (house of) cards fall?  You gather them up and keep going... no worries.  :) You say "Wow, look what I learned the first time I built it... surely I'll be able to make better choices this time and get further than ever before!!!"

I think this applies here for you too :)

And more words of wisdom that are powerfully encouraging from a TTL veteran Timbre Wolf...

"Imagine if you could not lose, imagine that every new hurdle makes you stronger and smarter. Imagine they are not setbacks, but stepping stones to a better life"

Keep imagining....

Way to go!

jpolet:

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You are on the right track, believe me getting throught the first weeks is the toughest, convincing your brain that this is your plan is tough.....but if you stay positive...keep yourself busy so you don't think about it, and find someone, that you you can sort of 'vent to or blow off steam' when it gets rough.....The one thing i can say is don't plan months or weeks or even days ahead, plan for today, then worry about tomorrow tomorrow, i find it's way less overwehlming...You are on the RIGHT track!

Shane13:

Wow!!

To see that I've been quoted is a high honor!!!  But I stand behind it 100%.  

You have only just begun my friend... keep your brain in check and you'll hit the lessons that reinforce that YOU are in control... you can shut down that stupid voice that holds you down.  YOU ARE THE MAN!!   Keep the pace.  :)

Thanks for blogging,

Shane13

cadamsgis:

You can do this

You can DO this.

When I quit drinking - I didn't think too hard about weeks and days ahead.

My main focus was I could make a choice not to pick up the drink for that day. I imagined myself putting those thoughts in a box that I couldn't open back up. It helped me compartmentalize the drinking.

I did alot of stupid things when I was drunk because I would lose total control and have no idea about what I was doing. There were always stories about me. I found that after i quit drinking I gave myself permission to do things and if it was a bad choice at least I was making a choice.

Another thing I try and do is I tell myself that I'm a person who doesn't drink.

It will be 18 years in October since i had a drink and I did it on my own (ie no treatment or prorgams).

My focus now is weight so yesterday I decided to use same technique. Someone had brought donuts so when I was asked if I wanted one - I just said - "no thanks I"m not a person who eats donuts" - which was huge for me :)

Keep up the good work.

Cat