kmcm:

Hang on tight!!!

It sounds like you have been doing VERY VERY well at your sobriety!  Good job! 

Though I dont really know, it would seem possible that the loss of interest in everything coupled by the frustration of the monotony....  might be one of the reasons that led to the drinking in the first place?  CAUTION... CAUTION...  An alcoholic or recovering alcoholic will cover any logical explaination of the feelings with any excuse they can to have reason to go back to the substance.  That little devil on the shoulder can make anything look logical, sensible and appealing.  Stay strong!!!!

It would also make sense, to me... that it would be normal to have these feelings... at this stage of the game in your sobriety.  Afterall... for sometime, you have been accustomed to covering the feelings up with a substance... alcohol.   Now that much of it is leaving your physical system... it gives way to having feelings again, Those feelings are what I would guess you are feeling. 

SO.... You are excited about your new baby's arrival.  (Congrats!!!) AND you want to stay sober for your, your wife's and your child's sake to be a good person, husband and father.  You need to find something healthy to replace these feeling s with.

I have suggestions you can consider.  They may not sound appealing at first but consider the long-run picture... 

Start an exercise program... with your wife.

Go bike-riding with your wife

Go for long walks with your wife.

What am I getting at?  Well all of these suggestions are with your wife and involve exercise.  The exercise will help her stay in great shape to have that baby.  It may help your body thru its detox process.  It will help her snap back into shape after the baby is born.  It will help you establish a new POSITIVE habit of putting self and family first.  The time you spend doing this, is something you will cherish cause there will be less time and more people to share that time with in your very near future.  You will have established a new habit prior to your child's birth that would be great to continue after his/her birth to create family time... no matter how many children you end up having.  You will have established this new POSITIVE habit, to replace an old NEGATIVE habit, WHEN you need it most... NOW.... while you are feeling these symptoms.

Now.. I havent been through what you are going through,  but I have found that the success I am having thru the TTL program is that by getting rid of one bad habit (making excuses and/or procrastinating) and replacing it with good new habits is working great!  I have to force myself forward at times but thru Coach Steele's, "LAW OF ACCUMULATION",  I have become stronger, have created little changes over time that have led to BIGGER changes... which have in turn helped me create a more positive, stronger, excited, person... like I was meant to be rather than the dull, depressed, overwhelmed, boring, unmotivated, unfulfilled, person caughtup in a monotonous and boring life... 

Congrats  to you  and your wife!  I hope that this will help you get things turned around to become that man you desire to be!  Keep doing well with your sobriety... you really are doing great.... overcome these feelings, continue with TTL... force yourself a little if you must... you too, can have a fun-filled, full and exciting life.  You just gotta try!

Susankayblair:

Great advise

I could not give you any better advise than kmcm did.  You are on the right track.  Keep on going.  You are doing well and congratulations on the little one coming. 

mbteach57:

Congrats!

Kmcm gave you some great advice and I just wanted to add my congrats on both your new baby news and on all of your accomplishments! You are doing well, hang in there!

definitelythistime67:

Yahoo!!!

Hurray for you!! 3 weeks!! Thats a like a lifetime in sobriety land ;) Hurray you're having a baby!!! What a blessed baby that his/her dad is working so hard on maintaining that sobriety. I love the suggestions that Kmcm gave, very creative. It will give you something to do, give you adrenaline and endorphins to feel good and make your wife know how much you love her.

Also look for a hobby for yourself - what did you like to do as a kid - build models, fly remote control planes, whatever your interests are put your energies into that.

Geocaching is something else you guys could try, it a hobby and involves exercise and its fun. 

You can do it, keep going!