THE BUMP SOMETIMES DOES NOT HAPPEN IN YOU...IT HAPPENS TO YOU. SOMETIMES PEOPLE WILL TRY TO SABOTAGE YOUR HAPPINESS AND YOU HAVE TO KEEP RECITING YOUR AFIRMATIONS OVER AND OVER..........
YOU TRY TO HELP PEOPLE AND THEY JUST LAY THERE AND ARE SO DAMN LAZY AND THEY ARE SO FULL OF EXCUSES IT IS SICK....AND IT WAS ONLY THROUGH TOOLS THAT I CAN IDENTIFY THIS BEHAVIOR.
" OH, I AM TIRED"
'I WORK TOO HARD'
'I AM STRESSED.'
'I GET UP EARLY'
my partner gets home and immediatly gets to bed and turns on the tv set. Wanted me to look up something on the computer.......when I told her she can do this herself since she knows whaT she is looking for............BAM.........
OUT COME THE EXCUSES!
I kept saying my afirmations and I knew that my attitude was my decision so I chose not to argue and leave the room. Leave the misery and nastiness and come and blog...which helps me feel better.
she does not know hardly how to turn a computer on and check her mail....but she claims to not be able to sit for 5 minutes and learn because she is too tired. Now, she has come a long way and is at least asking me about TOOLS but she won't sit for 10 minutes at night and do it herself.
so you see, the bumps come, and people try to ruin the peace and joy that you have..........but you have to be strong and powerful enough to react in a calm and mature way. KNOW TOOLS........and that is why there is the check list. things are there in your mind fresh when you need them.
that is why we need to do TOOLS every day. It is a training of the brain....to do the right thing...to listen to our inner voice...to be human and at peace.
Once again, thank you Coach Steele! All I have learned is priceless and all I have grown is inmeasurable!
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Be the Change you want to see in the world...Ghandi
This is a tough one. Can I BE happy and seek my dreams, make changes, keep to doing the things I need to, if my friends or partner or roommate choose NOT to?
I like what someone said to me once, "All you can do is hand them a card." She meant, "You let them know an option is there. You give them a way to find it. Then, you leave them alone."
For instance, say I decide to go vegetarian. I'm hyped, I feel good, I'm loving it, it's really making me happy.
If others keep eating meat, I'm the one who made a change. Unless they invite me to dinner and when I show up there's a big steak on my plate...now THAT's sabatoge!..
they are just choosing to remain in the place I am no longer at.
hand them a card; focus on you; be patient.
Great Idea
Wordbird - loved your idea of sending a card. going to take it one step further and have a stack of lovely picture-postcards (pre-stamped and addressed!) in my head, ready for delivery at all times :-)
minerva
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It is hard not to be judgemental when others around us don't fall into our new routine. Especially so now that your positive enthusiasm for this course must be known to them
I think it is a good sign of your commitment to completing the checklist that you can identify excuses which, not so long ago, we were all making