The ever-talented, bright and shiny MoonShadow that reminds me of one of my favorite songs...and I do feel like I'm being followed by a MoonShadow -so uplifting and supportive! Kudos, thanks, gracias, merci bou coup, and all that jazz! You are dynamite!
I have introduced TOOLS to my partner and she is somewhat receptive to it. She has been clapping and saying I'm having a great day and looking in the mirror etc....I even read her the notes and train the brain because she does not want to use the computer and would rather lay in bed and watch tv..........so at least she is SOMEWHAT receptive to TOOLS. She does have one thng that she will not let herself do in TOOLS. She sets the alarm and hits the snooze about 5 times. I have told her from the beginning of our relationship that it was bad for her sleep patern to do this. Now she will not stop...even though TOOLS tells you to and she sees how much better my life is....so...do I just worry about MY life and keep doing what I am doing with her and be grateful that she is at least listening to some of it.....or WHAT DO YOU SUGGEST to make her try to set her alarm for one time, shut it off and get up as if it was her birthday EVERY DAY!
says: Hmmmm - I agree with JKoczela
When the decision comes to change, and you take action, things will indeed change, and some of them you may not be ready to accept.
The most interesting one is the reactions and behaviors of others around you as you go through this change.
If previously you were compliant, for example, and as you go through Tools and notice that choices are your own and you become empowered, those around you that used to manage you and your actions will and often become resentful, or at best confused and will not behave well at all.
People, as a whole don't like change - it's just downright disruptive.
The only person you can deal with, honestly is yourself. No one else, and even speculating on someone else's actions is futile.
Speaking from the experience of loss from having chosen to 'grow' and change, it's painful to deal with...
Yet, when in a relationship, your partner may realize the benefits you gain and eventually come around - but the decision has to come from within. Just as it has with you.
I wish you a strong and steadfast heart.