Monk at 2008-04-15

says: Hmmmm - I agree with JKoczela When the decision comes to change, and you take action, things will indeed change, and some of them you may not be ready to accept. The most interesting one is the reactions and behaviors of others around you as you go through this change. If previously you were compliant, for example, and as you go through Tools and notice that choices are your own and you become empowered, those around you that used to manage you and your actions will and often become resentful, or at best confused and will not behave well at all. People, as a whole don't like change - it's just downright disruptive. The only person you can deal with, honestly is yourself. No one else, and even speculating on someone else's actions is futile. Speaking from the experience of loss from having chosen to 'grow' and change, it's painful to deal with... Yet, when in a relationship, your partner may realize the benefits you gain and eventually come around - but the decision has to come from within. Just as it has with you. I wish you a strong and steadfast heart. Sincerely, Monk