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Tue, Oct 23 12:00 AM

Fundamentally afraid

 

I am having a hard time with visualization, and translating it to reality. I had this problem with math and again with neuroscience, and again with computer science. Finally, it's the central tension around me and why I feel like I can't do work properly.

 

First, I can't tell if I don't self-monitor well enough, if I'm overly attentive, or if I am simply not approaching self-evaluation of my work appropriately. I can tell myself not to make excuses and whatnot but I seem to have lost this internal ability.

 

I suppose I should work, once again, on strengthening my inner voice and challenging its negative side. It's pretty negative. If I had health insurance that covered it, I would get a therapist and investigate whether I have attention deficit disorder. I have a really hard time sustaining mental effort---I always have. I always thought that getting work that I was utterly fascinated in would be the solution, but so far that hasn't worked, despite the fact that I practically live for the job I'm doing now, when I'm not at the office. 

 

Second, I feel like the foundations upon which my knowledge and intellect are based must be false. I get shy and clam up in the face of authority, be it derived from age or plain confidence, intelligence or arrogance. Unless I perceive my opponent or compatriot to be my equal, I never feel free expressing what I mean to say.

 

I suppose a part of me accepts that because of my upbringing-which was a fairly volatile one. 

 

All I know is, I am really trying hard to put forth the effort to change. I just hope I am working smart as well as hard, because I am dying to see results on this very thing.  

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Head up! :)

Sounds to me as if you really have a hard time working on all of this. Take a bit at a time and don't try to change yourself in a major act because that will get you frustrated very soon.


Try to use the myAchievements-section more to monitor even the smallest changes. That will motivate you for the bigger ones and you will see that you change along the way which you would maybe miss if you don't monitor them.

Have a wonderful day.
You're doing great! *hug* And just look at your days: You're doing a consistent job here at Tools. That alone is worth a myAchievements-post. :)