Change of focus had positive effect

I was feeling sad this past Sunday - a week ago I had ended my relationship, and tho it was the right thing to do, I was lonely and I missed him. Here is what I wrote about a breakthrough I had on Sunday - it was a realisation and a shift in thinking:
 
Every time I hear a small plane, I think of my ex and how he took me flying and let me fly the plane, and my sadness grows.
 
There are a LOT of small planes around here, they like to fly over the water & beach.
 
I got tired of being almost knee-jerk sad every time I heard or saw a plane, so I decided that instead of feeling down, I would smile and think of how fun it was to fly, and how nice it was to have a friend of mine with me up there.
 
The first time, of course it felt really fake ("fake it 'til you make it"), but I kept doing it and suddenly, it was genuine: I felt happy and finally a little at peace.
 
It was really nice to see that I can control my response to the outside world. That doesn't mean I stuff my feelings - it's perfectly natural to mourn the loss of a relationship (even one I chose to end to honor my inner voice) - it just means I don't have to wallow in negativity. I can look for the good in all events.

My focus is on whatever I choose to focus on. That's extraordinarily powerful. 

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