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Resisted the false emotions of being buzzed

 

 

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Thu, Dec 25 09:23 PM

Resisted the false emotions of being buzzed

 

I tend to get emotional after drinking. I don't drink much anymore because I have had trouble controlling it in the past. But my brother and his partner are big social drinkers and I have used the holidays as an excuse to overindulge (that'll have to go on my excuse log, for sure).

 

Today we had lots of wine with dinner and I got silly at first, and it was fun. But then an emotional event happened with an ex-boyfriend and I got sad. In the past I would have wallowed in whatever emotion came up, but I decided to be in control - even though I was pretty tipsy.

 

Every time I got a wave of negative emotion, I repeated to myself, "that isn't real" and it diffused the emotion. Alcohol always intensified feelings past what they really were, and in the past I would spiral out of control emotionally.

 

But not today - I chose my attitude, even under the influence! I am proud of it, and even more, I was pleased that it was almost second nature - it occurred to me out of nowhere to keep repeating that phrase, and it wasn't a horrible struggle.

 

What a wonderful Christmas present: the presence of mind and a little bit of grace.

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DetonNation DetonNation: 2008-12-26 13:58:14

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Great job! I just joined Tools today and my Christmas didnt go half as well as yours. I am a walking disaster... lol. 

Hopefully Ill be able to say that I had a great Xmas next year.

Mike 

seaside_barbie seaside_barbie: 2008-12-26 17:54:17

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Fantastic work - I also avoid alcohol for similar reasons.

It's not easy to break a habit or a way of thinking - lets face it, even old habits can be comforting sometimes. By choosing your attitude you are re-affirming that this past relationship does not have an emotional stranglehold on you.

I'm sure things are easier now for you than they were - if things get rough with this, just pat yourself on the back and remind yourself how far you've come.

 

angieszz angieszz: 2008-12-27 12:50:27

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That is a pretty cool natural re-action - it appears you have come a long way.

 

Great work, I wonder what else you have conquered but not realised?

 

Have a great day! Angie