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  rainbow15

Thu, Feb 01 12:00 AM

feeling guilty and wondering if I should feel that way

 

How do you stop feeling guilty over something you really don't think you should feel guilty about?  My husband and I (who are separated) went to file our taxes togeher yesterday. We talked - I asked about his 2 kids and how things were going and xisa versa.

  He also said he still loved me and wanted to know if we could get back together.I told him no - that I didn't want to get his hopes up. He told me if I cahnged my mind, I knew where to find him.

  I won't go into the whole conversation we had but it made me feel guilty - that I left him, that I filed for a divorce, that once his son moved out of state soon, he would be living by himself. I wouldn't be there and neither would my daughter. 

  You talk about some depression, sadness and guilt...

  Need I say, whenI saw his son's car parked in the parking lot next to his father's car tongiht when I went for my last eveing  walk, I felt not so guilty. I felt glad that his son was there so my husband wasn't alone.

  How do I handle this guilt I feel?

   Other than that....not a bad weekend. I did all my reading and exercizes and am really working on trying to do everything I'm supposed to. I am also making up my own personal check list of things I have to do each day.

  Hopefully tomorrow will be a better day.
 Thanks for listening.

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I have no answer for you but I'm writing to say these are important questions. I think when we make a change there are "bad" feelings even if the change is a good one. The feelings are not the best guide for what is the right and best thing. I believe. Anyway, I wish you a good tomorrow.

My Ex gets to me that way too.

While going through the divorce, I wrote a note to myself that I carried with me.  The note covered all the reasons that I divorced him. 


I'd whip that paper out any time I was getting a bit melancholy or a case of the guilts.  That might help you.


He is a man.  He will be fine. You are not responsible for him anymore.

 

You have my permission to make yourself happy. Laughing

 

DebD