Mumski.Moo:

Hi Scotttay1

There are so many good guys like you out there that get treated like s*** by their girlfriends. Having been in some not so great relationships in the past I would really appreciate to have a good guy that treats me good. Unfortunatelly these women just don't know how good it is for them to have such a devoted man-they don't appreciate what they have and it infuriates me as they just don't realize how lucky they are. Its not your fault,keep being who you are and the right girl who appreciates you will come along. As for your son,if there are any problems you may have with access,go through the legal channels. Tools will help as it will build you up so do keep at it. Heart goes out to you and just focus for now on getting through Tools and being a good Dad to your son. Peace and take care, Mumski 

whoami:

penalized

I guess these women are penalizing you for being nice, perhaps they infer from that you are easy to manipulate.  I am divorced, and I have to make maximum effort to keep the peace with my ex so my relationship with my daughter doesn't suffer.

keep with the tools, practice what you are preaching.  are you monitoring the advice given here regarding relationships?  there are experts to help you emphasize your strengths and eliminate your weaknesses.

sounds like you are a good guy who was raised right.

one last thought.  I know you say you are ok with the blue collar thing, but I once knew a guy who was in his 50s and had been paving roads his whole life.  He implored me not to be a manual laborer because of the physical damage it had caused his body over the years.  Also, the higher salaries involve telling other people what to do and how to do it.