smilin: 2008-09-17

says:

Sorry I've not returned sooner to thank you for the support and comment on what has transpired since.

The support I've received here is fantastic, ty so very much !

I have come here a few times to read, and am sure I will return. Each of these suggestions is and has been quite helpful.

I did speak to someone to get more information; another view on an approach to the project and this seems to have provided further direction and made the task feel less overwhelming.

I have likewise been tackling the project in small pieces.  When my frustration is up or concentration fails I am walking away from it versus trying to push thru it thinking I can finish it  'if only' or 'once I get past __ '.

My hardest challenge is to keep myself relaxed thru any of the methods mentioned above, but, I am making more of an effort.

Atm, two things have occurred that have had me deviate from this project- Ive had to train a new employee and a work that is a higher priority (tho this is significant and I need to make time for it) so an update is still to come of saying 'its done' and relating how Ive managed to get to that point.

I will say however, that, the support here has encouraged me and provided a much needed perspective.  Ty all very much.

LaserGirl2008: 2008-09-07

says: I really wished to have to have known of this website before.  All those tips you guys propose are AWESOME.  I hate anxiety it is one of the worst feelings ever.  Though, indeed, meditation and breathing techniques should help pass the limits of this horrible illness.  Smilin, You are good enough.  WE all are, so Keep up a Positive attitude, that YOU CAN DO IT. 

Paulisasuccess: 2008-09-03

says:

I agree with all of these, but want to add a couple of more things.  Yes, listening to why you are anxious is essential...it might help assist you in knowing what the next action step is.

Another thing I think is important is to just step away from your desk.  Take a blank piece of paper and go to a coffee shop, another part of the building, a different room, whereever.  Just you, a drink (lot conscious be your guide on what kind!), paper and a pen.  Then write long and hard everything that needs to be done in that project.  Write for 20 minutes...30 minutes - even if you have written this down somewhere else, write it down here.

Then come back to your office and put each of those action steps in place.  Calls, e-mails, errands, etc.

Finally, always be on the lookout for the next action step.  It may not be obvious.  Say the project is the annual budget.  The first thing may not be 'put budget together', but 'ask sales rep for quote on new copier'.

Hope this helps.

Paul

You can do it, keep going!

ninameliss: 2008-09-02

says:

How are you doing with this now? This is an amazing opportunity you have to approach your anxiety in a new way. For you to ask your anxity what it is telling you. So that you can address your concerns in a way that you can move forward, instead of telling yourself you shouldn't have them.

I've struggled with anxiety, too, and started seeing an IC for it. He helped me discuss the situations where I felt anxiety, and helped me brainstorm solutions for them that worked for me. He also got me into the routine of the deep breathing daily and guided relaxation, so it takes a lot more for my anxiety to get triggered, I don't get AS flustered, and I recover faster. he also helped me reframe this, to see that my anxiety was telling me that I am ready for this opportunity, ready to address this, in the present.

Keep us posted how it goes!

smilin: 2008-09-01

says:

ahhhh.. thank you

Yes, I have done this before which is why I should not be struggling with it so.

But, yes, you hit on some very important things- relaxing thru it; not pushing on too long or too hard.

Moreso, I need to ask myself your very first question.  Thank you.

ninameliss: 2008-09-01

says:

Good for you for

1) recognizing you need help and

2) Asking for help when you need

Ask your anxiety, what is it telling you?

Do you need more inforation on how to do this? Would it help to refer to a project that you or someone have already done?

How about setting a timer, see how much you can get done in 15 minutes? You can do anything for 15 minutes :) It may give you the momentum to feel confident again.

Deep breathing and guided relaxation are great for anxiety. Or a brisk walk. Or a cup of hot tea. That self-care, bringng yourself back to today, where you control your life and your attitude.

What have you done to alleviate your anxiety in the past?