Teenwolf90210:

Just do it!

You can always change and don't get down on yourself if you miss for awhile. I just missed over like ten days and I've been on the program for over 2 years and am not even half done. I keep coming back and slowly but surely I see my life changing for the better in huge ways. You CAN do this! You know you can. I know you can.

sctodd:

break the cycle - write your own story

Your past has brought you to where you are, but it doesn't control you or your future.  You can write your own story starting right now.  I get the completely lost feeling and I spent a lot of time in the past feeling that way.  A good friend once told me "Just pick a direction and move.  It doesn't have to be perfect and you can change your direction later if you want.  Just move."  I can't tell you how much better it makes me feel when I am having a hard time and fall back on that advice. 

When you feel like you are never good enough, it is easy to be overwhelmed by TTL or life generally.  I have serious perfectionist tendencies and get paralyzed by fear and the desperate need to do things just so.  I get stuck in information collecting and analyzing modes and wind up feeling really bad about myself because despite my desire to do better, I struggle at making progress.

You are here at TTL because you want to improve yourself and your life.  Think about what really matters to you.  What do you want your life to be like?  How do you want to spend your time?  Start doing small things that foster those changes you want to see.  Pick small steps and consistency over sporadic and heroic spurts of effort.  Don't beat yourself up when you have slacked off, slipped up, or made a mistake; instead treat yourself with the kindness and understanding you would have for friends, loved ones, or strangers.  Just pick yourself up and move in the direction of what you want.  And be sure to give yourself credit for your efforts and accomplishments, no matter how small.

shinysunny:

Yes it is possible!

Dear Sschwen,

You are stronger than you think.

You are amazing.

You can do it.

You can change in any way you like.

You can be what you want.

And remember you are loved as you are already, you were created as unique, you are lovely!

The future is to be created by you.

You are here to thrive and grow.

This hard phase you are going through is not going to last.

You are lucky to have found tools.

Do tiny step of tools at a time.

Do Tools several times round if needed.

No more negative self-talk, you can be positive, it is going to feel so good!! Do keep the hope, that yes it is possible, and only do tiny steps but each day, until each habit you like to learn becomes automatic. You write the checklist yourself remember, so it is enjoyable, you have freedom to write what you want for yourself and to do it.

You are great and you can feel great too.

There is light.

Here is a prayer for you in my heart. You are not alone.

Take good care of yourself: eat well, drink a lot of water, sleep well, breathe deeply, go in the fresh air and sunshine, see lots of people around, be distracted, keep busy and praise yourself for every step of the way to your new life.

You are special.

I value you my friend

Shinysunny