Deb83: 2009-03-04

says:

You're not alone... we all have doubts when feelings are unfamiliar... 

srull18: 2009-03-02

says:

the reason your mind feels that way is because your mind isn't used to feeling that way.

it takes a while to train the brain to think positive and to be happy, when your whole life your brain was trained to be negative.

Give it sometime, it will kick in.

Mickey3111: 2009-03-02

says:

2. I actually lost a really good friend because of my drinking, and I realize that now because I do not drink anymore. I've had a clearer mind to look back and realize why the people I considered "friends" were a bunch of lazy alcoholics, I was one too!

I really think if you let it go, which is hard I'm sure, he'll either come around to realize the life he's missing or continue taking on the depressing binge drinking, misery-stricken life.

maria579: 2009-03-01

says:

1.  yes, i have felt that way, but here's how i figure it -  if a placebo works, who cares if it's working for "real" or not?  if it does the trick, for me that's end of story. 

i also figure that, as Coach says, i am training my brain to do something new, so sometimes i will think negatively (as i have done for many years) - it's an old habit breaking back through as i practice the new habit (thinking positively). 

give it til Day 90 to question it.  if the new good feelings are "real," they'll stick around.  if not, you've not done any harm by doing this program!

2.  my humble opinion is to avoid the guy.  he is an adult and is responsible for himself.  your job is you.  why don't you spend some of that energy and friendship on someone who will repay in kind with positivity and good times?