bikergirl at 2008-01-20

says:

My dear, you need to find a way to focus on your growth. You are temporaraly stuck in a situation that you can find a way out of. The first thing I want you to do is to start putting a few dollars back. Make a fund of your own. Mad money or escape money or just a nest egg.

second you need to get some education. Is is about lfe or a skill that you need? You can not just hide behind these mistakes and the fact that you had children for less than ideal reasons.

I know you love your children. That is not the issue. You need to find yourself. Find your voice. Write down a list of your good points and how you stand on your own feet.

You can not disappear my dear. You still have to stand on your own to show your children how to do the same.

Even children of divorce love their parents so that is not an issue. If he is the better parent it may be in the childrens ingtrest to stay with him for now until you can gain some strength and backbone.

I was in a bad situation at home and begged my mother to stand up and leave. She did not and we became a family of abuse. To each other and from our parents. Now is that what you are looking forward to with you kids? They will grow up and ask you why. Why you left or why you stayed so you have to be able to answer that question.

You can also gains strength right where you are. Take a class, get a job. Stop being a zombie. Life is not practice. Its all we have. Get in the game. Live. Going through the motions is not living.

Im here if you need me,

You're not alone