hi i am here to ask a question..
i am unable to give love to my brother and want to ask how?

the situation is.. due to some little problem, we didn't talk alot to each other for 8months and yesterday he cried telling me so.

yesterday i say, okay, it's been 8 months, it's true. you're living me with, sleeping near me and i don't talk to you. but you see you get stronger. take me as a ghost, you know some people don't even have a brother. and i also say, i have total respect for you, it's not that i don't want to talk to you, it's because i don't feel the need to. you are mature now (14 years old, and you are having great sucess), i'm sure you can pull it off

he say, it's been 8 months, and today we've been speaking for more than 5 minutes (starts crying), he say he's crying and i'm not.

that i have a hardhead, and won't talk to him. and that he needs alot of attention, he needs me to talk to him. and finally that he will soon or later not treat me as a brother..

so here i say.. the last time we stop talking.. it's because you didn't want to. it is awkward for me to talk to you again since you requested to be stop talking. i can talk to you, but i talk to you with the things that you can reply easily, without hurting your heart.

obviously, yesterday i felt like i hurted him alot, but tell me.. since i was a child, i was intimidated and i learned to rely on myself, and him needs me, so i say BECOME STRONGER.

solution from his part: he talk to me for the things he needs help with
solution from my part:just talk once a day, if you force me to talk to him, my words will be empty words and fake.

in this world you have great relations of brothers, and very bad too. so right now i am in a very bad situation, and the point that i don't cry because of that, is also sign of very bad.

so now, i want to care, i want to love my brother. but i want to know some reasons why..  a good example is my two aunts never talked to each other and they are all alright.

but i love talking, i care alot for my friends, i have total respect for my mother father and brother. the problem is, something blocks me from transfer the little extra love i am able to give to my friends to my family. notice, i am a very fair person, i use life realities and what is universally normal to answer life questions.

so yeah sorry for the long text, i just wanna know how but tell me why also, coz it will convince me more to do something if i have some strong reasons