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Birth Date: Mon, Sep 07

Place of residence:
Orange CA, United States (map)

I am: Married


Jobs: Claims Analyst - Insurance

Tools Program Stats:
Member Since: 12/08/09
Last Login: 02/24/14
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tenaciousj's Life List:
Get my daughter into a good school and see her through to the end.
Be debt free and begin to save for emergenices and retirement.
Be Happy -- Don't sprial into despair no matter what!!
Join volunteer group with my daughter (Habitat for Humanity).
Go back to meditation center and participate in events.
Have a Purpose and Happy in the journey of life.
Revise resume -- you never know when you'll need it
Go to marriage counseling with Frank
Buy new clothes
Clean and care about the house more
Go to the Beach more often
Just Do It!!
Stop enabling Frank which will help him grow up.
Pay Off School Loan
Finish Frank's Books and Have Him Take Over
Have a retirement plan
See the Packers in the Superbowl
Get a more exciting and fulfilling job
Read more good books
Find a useful hobby that I could make money from
Figure out what I want to do and go back to school





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Thu, Mar 11 01:37 PM


 I did it!!  I made amends with my attorney.  I took responsibility for actions, I apologized for my outrageous behavior and asked my attorney if we could move on and win this case together.  He returned my call late last night and we had a good conversation.  He said he was "estatic" to receive my message and we are good to go.  Now, it's time to visualize a "win" and get a good verdict.  I did let him know that I no longer want to hear about other cases that went bad.  I'm in this to win it and we need to be positive going forward.  The more he tried to prepare me for the worst, the more fearful I became.  I express fear as anger.  Not good.   I've decided not to fear what has not happened yet.  I'm going to go to trial and win because I deserve to win.  My life has been totally disrailed by two unfortunate incidents and now it is time for that to be amended.  The past five years have been extremely difficult, but I need to move on and put all of this behind me.  I'm ready to win at trial, pay off my school bills, pay off my credit cards and breathe.  I did not do this alone.   I got amazing advice from my Tooler friends (you know who you are) and thank you all for not letting me beat myself up too badly.  Once again, Tools is ironic.   I also spent 3 hours on the phone with my sister (she lives in Maryland) who loves me despite myself.  She knows me better than anyone because we have the same defense mechanisms.  She knows how wonderful I am but she also knows the damage I can cause.  She provides me with unconditional support, love and advice.  I am truly blessed that she is in my life.  She helped me believe that I could fix the bad situation I created with my attorney.  I had planned on sending her a card thanking her for her help -- today that is my Tools task.  Hmmm. . .  Crazy cool; isn't it!!   Cool


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way to be

good for you...you apologized for your actions, and explained yourself! you are staying true to yourelf and that is all that matters. I admire your positive attitude! I am the same way, I express my emotions, fear, sadness etc....in anger. It might not be right, buts its the way we function so we don't seem so valnerable i think.  we are strong...we just have to remember that, even when it seems impossible... good luck with your battles...sounds like you'll so great!