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Member Since: 05/29/08
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Member Since: 05/29/08
Last Login: 10/17/11
Viewed: 12934
Program in:
Program Progress: Day 70
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Personal Interests:
Music:
I have every genre of music on my Ipod, I like Alanis' early work, The Beatles, Morrisey & The Smiths, The Smashing Pumpkins, three 6 mafia.
Books:
I like Autobiographies and Biographies, Psychology, Medical books, educational books, and some fictional drama. My fave authors are Sheneska Jackson, Eric Jerome Dickey and Jodi Piccoult. My favorite books are My sisters keeper, Twilight Series.
Favorite Places:
I Want To See:
More Musicals/theater productions, more of the world, find the best me, end of of poverty, homelessness, the war and all bad/evil.
Hobbies:
movies, music, reading, video games (Wii and Xbox), tv, computer, scrapbooking, playing with my Puppy, going to the Inprov, sudoku, hanging out with friends.
Activities:
Sports:
I am too uncoordinated for sports. ;) I try and do the Wii sports/ Wii Fit and walk my Dog.
As far as Watching I like MMA/UFC, WWE (John Cena, HHH, Undertaker, Shawn Michaels). I also like New England Patriots football and Lakers Basketball.
Movies:
Juno, Save the Last Dance, Marley and Me (reminds me of Tyson), Anything Tyler Perry, Borat, Chasing Amy, The Dark Knight, Twilight, Spiderman 1, 2, 3 (Tobey Maguire), Sex and The City 1 & 2, The Wedding Singer, Finding Nemo, Superbad.
TV:
BH 90210, 90210, Melrose Place, Everybody loves Raymond, Friends, The Oprah Winfrey Show, Law and Order SUV, Law & order LA, Cold case, Jersey Shore, The Biggest Loser
Heroes:
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Tink's Life List:
| Living Financially Comfortable |
| Lose weight and be physically Healthy |
| Become Mentally Healthy about myself! |
| Learn how to deal appropriately with negative things in my life. |
| No Longer allow negative things or people in my life or bring me down. |
comments
Listen
I think you have to listen to that inner voice, and ask yourself if your Dad's concerns are valid or unreasonable. You are going to know the best thing to do for yourself. Coach gets into several sections on tools where he talks about relationships and gives guidance. My best advice is to listen to yourself & do what you know is best for you.
Yup
Do whats best for you, not what someone else THINKS is the best thing for you. Your dads heart is in the right place, but no one ever really knows whats going on in our heads/hearts. If making your BF move makes sense to you and it will make you feel better about things, then do it!
Changes
First of all my condolences on your losing you Mom. Get him removed from your premises, if you do not want him there and he is just using you and dragging you down. Either that or just start living your life and leave him to his own vices, while you decide what your relationship is with him. Productive and going somewhere or stagnation bogging your positive vibe. Neither route is easy you are in a bit of a spot. But he might have to be bodily removed if you want him gone and he won't go. Get him gone with help and then change the locks to make sure he cannot get back in if that is your decision. Your Dad is grieveing too and he is facing some major shifts in his life and sounds scared even if he is an old school guy and can only express this fear by griping. Do you see what I am saying? Keep the lines of communication open yes but try making a date for a positive rendezvous when you meet. I know easier said than done. Can you find the time to get away for two or three days and just BE with yourself? Give yourself time to sort out what you REALLY want now and for the future without any interference or distraction from YOURSELF? Then in that decide what is the right move to take for yourself and get the help you need to do the right thing for yourself where ever you can. Good luck.
Thank you!!!!!!
Thanks so much for the advice. I dont want 2 sound ungrateful or unappreciative. But in all aspects sometimes I cant hear my dad complain all the time. I have my stresses 2. It only adds its appears that there's nothing positive my dad can say but complain. We are going thru the same things with difficult finances (like most every1 else) and the loss of my mom even if its his wife and my mom. Im at a point wjere I dont care if Im with my bf. He puts me down and plays it off like he's joking, he costs me more money by living here and he doesnt help in a positive way. I think 1sdt and foremost I have to learn to think about me 1st then every1 else......
Again I appreciate all the comments and advice. Much needed.