I yelled at the boss and now things are better..?

I wrote a couple of days ago about my boss and about how I swore at him.

I didn't mention that he is notorious for speaking down to people; and foreigners whose struggle with the English language seems to indicate to him that they are stupid... we have a lot of foreigners at the work place so half the joint dislikes him. And that he regularly swears at us all and until the other day when I blew my top, none of us had really challenged his behaviour.

Now I yelled, irrationally, your basic hissy fit, at him and felt bad. I felt bad mostly for my lack of control, and over something so small - It had been building up for a while.

But bad, too, because I have always felt a tinge of sorrow for the old man, who is under a lot of pressure from all sides; albeit his own making, he seems to do it unconsciously, you know? Like a grumpy old man, set in his ways. But I have seen glimpses of the man he is outside of work, a nicer milder man, thinking and caring. Perhaps he has resentment towards working? Actually, I know he does, he always wanted to be a musician... never got there, but has a collection of some 25 guitars - he chats a lot too, mostly about himself!

=0)

So next night I go to work, I ask him aside and apologise for my outburst. Telling him I am very embarrased, that the way I acted and spoke was not an acceptable way to talk to another person. That I am not happy with myself.

He is gracious! He apologises too!

It's only been 3 days but what a change in the man. Hardly a swear I hear, toward anyone. It's like he wanted to be yelled at? He's been doing all the yelling, taking all the responsibility and I don't think he likes it very much. Not being much of a people person and trying to manage people must be hard.

I do NOT condone blowing your stack at the boss! I can't believe I swore so much in such a short period of time. Maybe it let him know that it's not OK to treat us all with such contempt?? And in his own potty language??

The other workers are very pleased with me too.

Go figure.

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