Maximisses:

I understand

I had depression a couple of years ago and have really suffered from anxiety most of my life. I have always been shy and am very sensitive so I can understand where you are coming from. I went to a cognitive psychologist due to my depression and really never looked back.  I never took medication for my anxiety because in Australia that is only subscribed as a last resort. 

It may feel strange at first talking to a stranger but take comfort in the fact that psychologists are trained to be non-judgmental.  I believe after a few sessions you will feel relieved that there is some one there you can talk to that won't go home and tell some body else or laugh at you.  If you do not feel comfortable after a few sessions then change to another psychologist.

You may also consider a psychologist who uses hypnotherapy as well. This may help accelerate your progress.

If you would like to do some work by yourself then I would highly recommend 'Anxiety & Depression' for Dummies.  (I also believe there is just a Dummies book on Anxiety that may be just right for you) This is a fantastic book with lots of small steps you can take to help your anxiety and train yourself to relax.  I found it very beneficial and still use it if I find myself slipping back into old negative patterns or if I have a bad day.

Overall I think therapy is very beneficial and I'm sure you won't regret it.  Best of luck.

empowering_myself:

hey

to be honest, everyone to some degree or other struggle with what you just mentioned (some may be better at hiding it though).

there are no quick solutions, but I had tried this book and loved it.  I personally feel that if it's not something disabling, dont consider using medications. instead consider slowly working through the process, using specific strategies. this book worked great for me in that regard.  hope you find this helpful too !!

Triumph over fear: a book of help and hope for people with anxiety, panic attacks and phobias by Jerilyn Ross. 

trudy09:

thank you!

I appreciate the post and the advice.  I will try this book.  thankfully, my anxiety is not disabling, so I feel I am able to work through it, to overcome it for good...! I'm grateful for you and all the other folks out there who have posted comments and their own experiences in their blog. it helps to know that others go through something similar, and there is hope...!  I hope you are well, and have a wonderful week...!

shinysunny:

How is it going?

Hi Trudy! I hope you are making great progress in this. I am very interested in the outcome of the Cognitive Therapy, I myself would very much like to improve my confidence and social skills.

Please let us know how you are doing, and what you have learned from the experience or the books to cope with anxiety and better relationships / communication skills.

Let's let go, stay calm and enjoy being wonderful!!