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Birth Date: Sun, Dec 26 1982

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Tue, Dec 29 04:56 PM

what to do?


so me and my wife are going throuhg some stuff right now.... me and her have never really been able to talk. i had come up with ideas in the past to try and make it easier, like right a note or an email that kinda stuff. she never rote anything.

i love her more than anything... and all this is just killing me. she and i are moving out at the end of the month, and im not allowed to know where she lives, like im crazy or somthing but she knows im not like that. she wont talk to me about anything , and when we do she just starts yelling at me. she wont kiss me or hug me unless i try. she makes me out to be someone im not to people we dont even know. by telling only bad things and leaving stuff out so i look worse. she wont tell me she loves me unless i say it , and even then sometimes i get no reply. she treats me not very good now. im doing everything to try and make it work.

my family thinks its stoopid, and that we should just work it out . couse it all can be worked out. but i cant work it all out just me.

she says she loves me and wants me to fight for her .

i just dont know what to do anymore!!!

i dont want to loose her even after all this, i still love her more than anything. but i dont know how much more i can take.

some of the things she has done and said i will never forget .

i dont wanna just let this marriage go to waist.

im going to stop here couse i dont wanna try to make her look bad . i just want my wife back.


am i wrong for trying so hard ans wanting her back.

what would you do?


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It sounds like she is saying one thing but doing another.  Based upon all of your story in the first paragraph, I would tell you that it is over and you have got to move on.


Then I got to "she says she loves me and wants me to fight for her".  Man, talk about head games.  I don't know what to tell you.  If I wrote a heartfelt and serious email or letter to my girlfriend and did not get a response, I'd think it is over.


Keep doing tools...every day.  You're on day two now, but in about two weeks you should really start to see some results.


I think its great that you want to save your marriage. It is not over unless you give up. The only thing you can do is work on your self, your side of things. The more positive you are, the easier the situation will be, at least for you. Hopefully by doing that it will help to open her eyes to the man you really are.


Marital strife is never fun, I know from experience. I think it is easier to work on a difficult marriage than try and sort through the rubble of a divorce. I hope that helps and I wish you the best in putting things back together. Let me know if there is anything I can do to help.

says: oh and im sorry if this don't make a lot of sence .but i have a hard time even thinking about it right now