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I want to be health and fit, and a little smaller wouldn't hurt. To me this means more energy, cofidence and happiness in mylife
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Fri, May 09 12:35 AM

Thinking...and Thinking....

 

Do you ever wonder about the people in your life. About the motivations at times they have with you. When you feel like you have been used, taken for granted, and unwanted except for something you can help them with.

I’m trying to understand why I let these cycles happen in my life, and better yet some ways to break them and confront them differently. Feeling valued, and realizing you don’t mean the same to them. And even more, I get angry that they don’t care enough about me. I also working through trying to stop putting everyone first. It’s driving me crazy, now that I realize I am doing it. I also feel like this is somewhat effecting me with trusting new people that can be coming into my life. I’m feeling so mentally exhausted.. Trying not to over analyze so much, but find it hard. Because I want to change these feelings

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ABetterMe ABetterMe:

You are valuable!

I've read your blogs from time to time, and I've always gotten the impression that you are a really sweet and giving person, and that is actually a wonderful way to be, but I do understand how you can feel used up and not valued. Other people most likely recognize how giving and caring you are too - I think the big thing is to make sure you take time for yourself, and value yourself.

 

The reason I'm saying this is because it is something I have to put into practice myself. A wonderful (and very wise) woman I know told me that we often teach to others what we need to learn ourselves, so with that in mind....it's o.k. to say no to others sometimes, especially if you know they don't truly value you. And, it's o.k. to take time for yourself, and do something nice for yourself. You are valuable, and you deserve to be valued!

Sending you a hug Sending you a hug from one mother, woman, caretaker.....etc. to another....LaughingABMe

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Interesting

I think I've been where you are.  There's something about expecting people to be different than they are, perhaps not even sharing those expectations with them, and then being angry when they don't meet them.

I suspect that was part of what went wrong in my marriage - I expected my ex to want to spend time with the kids.  I expected him to want to know what I was like.  I didn't share myself openly with him - I wanted him to figure me out.

It didn't work.  Now that I'm older and crotchety, I have decided to just lay it on the line, and I'm amazed at how well it works.  I have a colleague who is sneakily trying to give me all her work.  So I just grin and say, "hey, isn't that in YOUR job description?" and tease her out of it.  She knows full well what she is doing, and grins back and retreats. Before I woulda sulked and done it, grumpily.

Be transparent, and glow with your enthusiasm.  Stand firm on your needs. And only sacrifice part of yourself when you are sure there will be a balance in return.